Why we can’t give up online dating

Many people often complain about dating apps: they either come across strange people, get no replies at all, or the conversations never lead anywhere.

Yet very few actually delete the apps for good — and even if they do, they usually end up downloading them again after a while. Why does this happen? Let’s figure it out together.

Digital dependence

Today, online dating is part of our everyday life. Other ways of finding a partner seem incredibly complicated. Our modern lifestyle simply doesn’t leave us enough time or energy for offline dating. We work a lot or are just too exhausted to go out somewhere specially every evening. Besides, it would be silly to ignore the opportunities that modern technology gives us. Used wisely, it can become a great helper in matters of the heart.

The advantages of online dating are obvious:

Availability at any time. This is probably the most important benefit for busy people. You can meet someone online whenever it suits you — while you’re stuck in traffic, waiting for your coffee on your lunch break, or relaxing at home late in the evening. There’s no need to make time or effort to “go out” specially.
A huge number of potential partners. In everyday life, our circle of acquaintances is limited, usually to people who live in the same city: our colleagues, neighbours, or friends of friends. In apps, those boundaries disappear. You can meet someone there whom you would never have crossed paths with in real life. That’s why the chances of finding someone who suits you perfectly are much higher.
Saving time. Online, you can get to know a person beforehand and only then decide whether you want to meet them in real life. This not only saves time, but also protects you from disappointment. You go on a date with someone you already know at least a little and who is clearly interested in you as well.
Safety. When you meet people online, you’re the one in control of the situation. You can end the conversation or block a user at any moment if something doesn’t feel right. You can also remain anonymous for as long as you think necessary and share personal information only once you start to trust the person.

On top of that, starting a conversation on the internet is much easier than in real life. This is especially important for people who find talking to strangers genuinely stressful. So there is definitely no need to give up online dating. With its help, the process of finding a partner becomes faster and more efficient.

Why dating apps are turning users off

It’s unlikely we’ll ever go back to a time when people met each other exclusively offline. The digital format has become far too deeply rooted in our lives. But the usual dating apps no longer suit most users. Here’s why:

Swipe fatigue. Many people are irritated by the “catalogue” format, where you have just a few seconds to assess a potential partner and decide whether to swipe right or left. This turns people into products with a set of characteristics and pushes us to judge them purely by appearance and a few parameters, rather than seeing them as individuals. As a result, more and more users feel that apps are simply stealing their time. Swipes and matches often don’t lead to anything, and the search for a partner turns into exhausting work. All this is very draining psychologically.
A huge number of bots and fake accounts. Instead of people who are genuinely interested in meeting someone, users increasingly run into profiles created for completely different purposes. This undermines trust in the platform and makes people doubt every new match. On top of that, many users deliberately present wishful thinking as reality: they upload old or heavily edited photos, which inevitably leads to disappointment when you finally meet in person.
Monetisation. For developers, it’s profitable to keep users inside the app for as long as possible, because their income depends directly on this. They are not really interested in us quickly finding a partner and deleting the app. That’s why they introduce paid features — and if you don’t use them, your chances of meeting someone can even be artificially reduced.

All this is why more and more users are looking for an alternative to classic dating services — and increasingly turning to video chats. These are the platforms of the future, bringing back what matters most to online dating: live, sincere interaction.

In an online chat, users talk in real time and see each other almost as if there were no screens between them. This reduces the risk of being deceived and gives you a chance to get to know someone as they really are. Another important point: there are no swipes in chat roulettes. The system connects two strangers at random, and you can never predict who will appear on the other side of the screen next. People start getting to know each other only after they’ve been connected, rather than making snap judgements beforehand as they do with swipes.

One service that’s particularly popular with users is Omegle chat with girls. It’s a modern chatroulette where you can meet new people in a very comfortable and safe environment. The audience is large and active, so there’s always someone to talk to at any time of day or night. You can also be sure that there’s a real person on the other side of the screen. So if you’re tired of dating apps and missing real, live interaction, give this format a try — chances are you’ll really enjoy it.

A new chapter in online dating

There’s no need to give up online dating, because in reality it opens doors that used to be closed. The main thing is to learn how to use the opportunities available to us to our advantage — and to choose those services that save our time rather than steal it. After all, technology is just a tool. How we use it depends entirely on us.

Axee Davies

Axee Davies is the founder of AxeeTech, publishing gaming guides, codes, and Windows how-tos since March 2013. A tech enthusiast for 13+ years — starting with smartphones and Android rooting — he now runs a site that puts out a new guide every day for Roblox players, traders, and Windows users. More about AxeeTech

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